Cleaning
Basic level (enough for most encounters): Shower, wash thoroughly with mild soap, rinse well. Many guys do nothing more than this and have no issues.
If you want extra confidence: A gentle bulb enema or shower attachment with plain water, used carefully and not too deep. Do not overdo volume or frequency — irritation and dependence are real risks.
Avoid harsh soaps, scented products, or aggressive scrubbing inside.
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Lube
This is non-negotiable. Use a thick, quality lube designed for anal. Silicone lasts longer; water-based is easier to clean and safe with most toys. Reapply often. “Enough” is usually more than people think.
Stretching / training
Fingers first. One, then two, slowly, with lube. Some guys use small plugs or progressive dilators over days or weeks if they want to prepare for larger partners. Do not force size. Progress should feel gradual, not painful.
Relaxation is half the battle. Breathing, arousal, and time matter more than any specific tool.
What to avoid
- Rushing straight to penetration with little warm-up
- Using saliva as the only lube
- Aggressive, deep douching right before sex
- Ignoring pain signals